October 30, 2012
Panel Discussion: Regi Campbell, Charlie Paparelli and Brad Pugh (moderator)
Integrity – Session Summary
PANELIST: REGI CAMPBELL
Regi is an experienced investor and entrepreneur who has intentionally sought to make a difference for God’s kingdom in the marketplace since becoming a Christian in 1983. As president and CEO of Async Corporation, he was recognized as Georgia’s high technology Entrepreneur of the Year. Regi then founded InterServ Services Corporation in 1993, growing revenues to $50 million in four years. Since 1997, Campbell has helped launch eight more start-up companies through his Seedsower Investments. Regi is the founder of Radical Mentoring, an online app that empowers men to mentor other men and he is the author of Mentor Like Jesus and About My Father’s Business. He has twice served as an elder at North Point Community Church.
Regi and his wife, Miriam, have been married 42 years, have two children and five grandchildren.
PANELIST: CHARLIE PAPARELLI
Charlie is the President of Paparelli Ventures and Chairman of High Tech Ministries. Through his role at Paparelli Ventures he is managing partner of iPartners, Torad Engineering and board member for SEMS Technologies. Charlie is a professional angel investor. Since 1992 he invested in over 20 technology startups in the Atlanta community. In addition, he is the Director of Angel Lounge which is a part of StartupLounge.com.
In 1993 Charlie was introduced to High Tech Ministries through its High Tech Prayer Breakfast. It was shortly after this first breakfast that Charlie committed his life to Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. In 1996 Charlie was chosen by the High Tech Ministries Board to be its first President and in 2008 he became Chairman of the Board. Charlie’s faith is active in the marketplace as he has lead seeker Bible studies in technology offices for the last 15 years and created Blitz thru the Bible, a two hour walk through the entire Bible.
Charlie speaks on entrepreneurship, angel investing, his faith story and what it means to be full-time for Jesus wherever you are. (For more details go to www.paparelli.com) He is married to Kathy for 35 years. He has four children ages 19-31 and is a member of Church of the Apostles.
MODERATOR: BRAD PUGH
Brad Pugh is a Group Director at World 50, Inc., organizing private communities for senior-most executives from globally respected organizations to candidly share ideas and collaborate in a forum free from competition or solicitation. Prior to World50, Brad was working with APAC-regional CEOs and HR executives based in Singapore with CEB. In the past, Brad has been an entrepreneurial leader and founder of several software/web firms. In these companies, he oversaw the creation of products for customers and achieved the sale of two of these business ventures. Brad began his career at Oracle Corp.
Brad has been married for 8 years and has three sons 5 and under. He and his wife reside in Atlanta, Georgia.
Opening comments on “Integrity”:
- When I think of us wanting to be Men of Integrity, I think we need to be truthful in these 3 relationships: Self, God and Others
- Self: I see these primary areas that threaten my integrity: Lust, Greed, Selfishness and Insecurity. We all have them. What are yours?
- God: Seek Him, get into His Word, ask Him and listen to Him
- Others: Who are you sharing your innermost thoughts with? and Who are you seeking advice from?
- Before my full surrender to God in 1983, I was a liar. I was living in the dark.
- I learned that every sin will always be connected to a lie.
- Integrity has a way of pointing us to where we are lying to ourselves, others and God.
Can you talk about what your experience around this topic of Integrity, entrepreneurship and business?
- Everyone looks good and sounds good. When I’m presented a business plan, I always want to hear that person’s life story to get a feel for their life-long integrity and whether I feel like the deal matches the person. There should be a distinct intersection here.
- I also am looking for whether I can relate to this person and/or their story? Are their commonalities?
- Integrity has much to do with transparency. If you’re not willing to share the details on your life, can I trust you by investing my money in your business?
- There’s no such thing as a secret.
- Much of the data that Jim Collins has found connects sound leadership to integrity.
- Tell me a lie and it’s the kiss of death. If you tell me 1 lie in a 1-hour interview, I’m going to assume you’re going to lie to me 40 times/week.
- Sooner or later, everybody knows everything.
- The silent lies are just as damaging as the spoken lies (what you don’t say).
What does Integrity look like for you as husbands and fathers?
- Telling the truth sometimes has consequences but telling a lie always has consequences. It takes guts but hiding truth is lying. It may mean delaying confession on a matter. Pray about it. Take it to God.
- We must confess any current lies.
- I once shared some temptations with a non-Christian and he gave me (what I know now was) terrible advice in what I should do.
- I learned from that how vital it is to consider who you’re sharing your innermost thoughts with and who you are you getting advice from. Are they Men of God?
When we encounter any of the 4 pitfalls Charlie mentioned earlier, how to you combat them?
- This goes back to the three relationships that are the foundation of our integrity:
- Admit this temptation to yourself as one of your weaknesses.
- Take it immediately to the Cross. Be truthful with God in prayer.
- Share your temptation with another Godly man.
- Pause. Seek Jesus.
- Name it. Name what is coming at you. “Greed, you’re not going to control me today.”
It seems there are a lot of areas around integrity that aren’t a clear black and white, a grey area. How do you decide what you might disclose in business dealings or negotiations?
- Business is about How and What. God is about Why. Ask yourself: What is my motive here?
- Consider how you might be spinning things. I point to Matthew 5:37 that says ‘Simply let your yes be yes and your no, no. Anything beyond that comes from the evil one.’
- Holding back or not disclosing information in these business situations really defines the relationships we want to have.
What about handling relationships you want to maintain when integrity has been compromised by the other person? Or dealing with lack of integrity in the workplace?
- Remember 2 things.
- There is a God.
- I’m not Him.
- It’s not our position to judge. Personally, I’m trying to judge less and perceive more.
- We’re usually ahead or behind others in different areas. So if we see matters of integrity in others:
- Walk carefully.
- Don’t become a self-righteous judge.
- Seek God’s guidance in letting them “catch up.”
- Values are caught, not taught.
- We’re charged to love one another. We all have issues. Let it go.
- If unethical behavior is consistent with the organization, get out.
- Don’t work for organizations that are counter to your values.
How can we have lives of accountability around this integrity topic?
- I’ll go back to the 3 truths in relationship mentioned earlier. We must be truthful to ourselves, to God and to others.
- Confess matters of integrity to those you trust and share the same values.
- We all need other guys that we trust to dig deeper, guys that won’t judge us.
- Don’t make any big decision today. A good deal today will be a good deal tomorrow.
- Like Charlie said, get some guys in your life for the long haul. They don’t even have to be guys you really like. Meet once/twice a month and just get together and do life.
Anything in closing?
- I believe the single greatest way to measure your integrity is by the quality of the relationships in your life.
- 3 of the most powerful words we can say are “I don’t know.” Those words can prevent us from lying and walking a fine line of integrity. Say “I don’t know” and your stock goes up.
- Regi’s recent blog post: 10 Takeaways on Integrity